Coffee House Girl

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  Gorgeous guys and gals in the Witchtower Study

  by hamsterbait in

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  how often have you seen a picture of some gorgeous piece in the sunday study, and indulged in a sweet fantasy?.

  post your favorite lust inspiration here.

  you dont need to tell of your fantasy.... hehehehehehehehehehe.

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  Coffee House Girl

  I always thought whoever they used to model Jesus in the mags/greatest man book was hot

  I used to call him "hot Jesus"

  hmmmmmm........

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  Please ring in if you have currently hold a "rank" in the WTBTS

  by stillin9 in

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  just wondering how many active pioneers, elders, ministerial servants, or perhaps even co's visit this forum.

  no need to disclose any personal information just what you serve as.. i am sure other threads similar to this have existed but what the heck.... i'll start off.... i am currently serving as a ms in a congregation in the us.. .

  so what your's rank?.

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  Coffee House Girl

  Was in rank as a "nobody" in the WTBTS because I was not an elder's wife or daughter, and unable to pioneer because of my status as divorced but "not in Jeh's eyes".

  But now out of the Borg for a year I have no idea what the jdub rumor mill has said about my current rank- whore? drug-addict? apostate? worldly?

  everyone is right- WTBTS is rank!

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  Reverse Shunning

  by gutted in

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  i have a confession.

  i am using reverse shunning.. i have ignored the elders calls.

  i do not want to hang out with witnesses anymore (besides my family and one friend).

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  Yup, I also participate in reverse shunning

  last month I was in my shop window taking some inventory and my JW nice came walking by with her kids in stroller- I just waved and walked away to do something else- perhaps some would have went outside and chatted with her to be nice to family and prove that the whole jdub shunning mentality doesnt matter...but the truth is....

  I had absolutely nothing to say to her, it would have been an uncomfortable, forced conversation- and truthfully if she wanted to talk to me she could have walked in the store

  so....I say forget the lot of em

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  Heartsick

  by EmptyInside in

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  i'm sorry, it seems like i only post when i'm down.

  so, most here probably think i'm depressed all the time,which isn't true.. but, i had a long distance romance, and now he doesn't even respond to my e-mails.

  we have been talking for almost two years now.

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  Coffee House Girl

  awww..I'm sorry empty inside- being left with no explanation is very unfair, everyone deserves the dignity of some kind of closure

  My first "worldy" man friend doesnt talk to me either, but he is upset that I started dating coffee shop guy (but he wouldn't committ to a relationship so I don't know why he is so upset...but anyway I try not to get angry when he runs away from me when I walk down the street...so juvinile)

  hang in there- I hope for you to meet someone nice (someone closer- no more long distance)

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  How do JWs in your area treat those who are "No Longer A Publisher.."?

  by Open mind in

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  Coffee House Girl

  One case in the cong I attended is a young kid about 17 who's dad is an elder- after her announcement her parents treat her as a disfellowshipped person- so does most of the congregation- I lost touch with her, the rumer mill of JWs speculated that she went "apostate" and became a lesbian- I hope she is happy and healthy

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  Judicial Committee Excuses

  by asilentone in

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  back in 2001 or 2002, a jw sister who i consider it as a friend confided in me that his son got df'd, she told me about all of the details.

  he tried not to get df'd.

  he started explaining to the elders why he committed fornication with another jw sister(also got df'd) is that he personally watched his uncle shot himself in the head.

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  happyex-

  I was saddened by your experience, I am so sorry you had that ordeal-

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  Judicial Committee Excuses

  by asilentone in

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  back in 2001 or 2002, a jw sister who i consider it as a friend confided in me that his son got df'd, she told me about all of the details.

  he tried not to get df'd.

  he started explaining to the elders why he committed fornication with another jw sister(also got df'd) is that he personally watched his uncle shot himself in the head.

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  Coffee House Girl

  Yup, never been an elder but I agree with OZ and Farkel-

  Its how repentent you look (cry,cry, & cry some more)- and it helps who you are (is your dad the CoBe?)

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  moral support? :/

  by ana_dote in

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  i know, i know...it's all part and parcel of the whole fading thing.....but..... i missed a phone call from an unknown number tonight....oddly enough, had this been a few months ago the number would have still been programmed in my phone.

  the number was to the kingdom hall i used to attend over a year ago.

  i have not set foot in it since probably late april, early may, of 2009. but tonight an elder called.

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  Coffee House Girl

  I can totally relate...

  I left Sept 3 of 2009- after the initial shock of leaving- visits from elders wanting to know why and convince me to stay or write a letter da'ing myself wore off- I felt more free to live the lifestyle I wanted, started dating a wonderful man- I kept all this from my mom and dad because my mom is an uber JW and I knew that she would shun me like all the rest of my family did if I told her I have a man I live with (now engaged to). The silence went on for about six months & I thought they let me go...

  Then the CO visit, then the calls began from the hall that the elders want to talk to me, that there is a situation that has come up that they are concerned about. I thought Shit...they aren't going to just let me go.

  I have ignored their phone calls for the last co visit ( they quit after 3 sundays of calling from the hall). Another CO visit is due soon...thus I fear they will press the issue again.

  I learned through other's experience on this site that they can DF me in absentia if I do not respond to them and they feel they have enough evidence (trial and execution without my testimony) This of course is total BS & after much thought I decided that I want them to DF me in absentia. Then when my mom asks me why I was DF'd I can say "I honestly do not know, they conducted the JC without me and made their decision without talking to me, if you want to shun me based on that, it is your decision."

  I wish you luck....I am happy for you also that you feel free to live your life the way you want :) your happiness with that makes me firm in my resolve that I also am doing the right thing for me-

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  The Greatest Lesson the Watchtower Ever Taught Me

  by jamiebowers in

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  the greatest lesson that the watchtower has taught me is to give the love that has been taken from me.

  our mother shuns my brother and me to the extreme.

  just this morning she told me on the phone from her hospital bed that we will have to learn her diagnosis through the grapevine.. she wasn't always like this.

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  Coffee House Girl

  Jamie,

  Thank you for your thoughts on this thread...since the day will come soon that my mom will find out that I am engaged to coffee shop guy (not a JW) and I will not return to the Borg & she will be faced with the choice to shun me too.

  She expressed to me last week that she is sure that my dad (faded JW decades ago) and my brother (living with them but not going to meetings) is smoking and she will have to turn them into the elders again and it will make her life so hard....I dont know what she wanted my response to be (I gave no response) but...

  you are doing a great thing, a healing for you and a help to all us lost ones out there....

  thank you, I hope I can pass along help and comfort to others in the same shoes like you have

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  Bethel Rules

  by brotherdan in

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  this was brought up just in passing on another thread.

  but i wanted to see if there are any bethelites or ex bethelites that remember some of the crazy rules we had to follow when we were there..

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  Coffee House Girl

  Wow, thanks for this thread- some parts were funny but mostly deeply disturbing- as a "sister" I never held out aspirations to serve at bethel (I was soooo thankful, it did not sound appealing to me). I heard some things about the "rules" from my ex husband who spent six months in Patterson-

  A sweet young kid from my cong went for a year (I always sent him $$ because I knew he had no luxuries there, but I had no idea they had to pay for AC, WTF!), he told me out in service when he got back that it was hard getting used to field service again because the bethelites were too busy in construction/printing work to go out (he hadn't been out in over 8 months) & I thought at the time that it was wrong for the GB to enforce hourly requirements on us regular folks because preaching wk was top priority, yet the mecca discourages service over manual labor-

  I am so glad you all are out of that hell forever

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